Do You Prefer Giving Advice or Getting Advice? Why?

Do you give or get?  Or do you do both?

Is there a divided line between the givers and the takers of advice giving? On what side of the line do you feel more comfortable?  We all have our comfort zones and for a lot of people, giving advice is safer.

Advice giving is a daily activity and a significant way we communicate with others.  We have many forms, such as the phone, email or texting to transmit our pearls of wisdom.  So, what service does advice provide in our world?   How much of the advice we give or receive is actually heard?

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The Essence of a Women’s Group is Trust

Trust – Firm reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, or character of a person or thing.

In a successful women’s group, the members must all trust each other enough to be able to open up and share their experiences freely. As we know, without sharing there will not be growth. But how can women in a diverse group learn to trust each other? How long before they can open up honestly?

The secret to building a trusting relationship is to start small. Begin with small acts and gestures of trust and build it up from there. It will take awhile, but there will come a time when the members of your group will not hesitate to open up to one another.

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Brainstorming Creativity

If you are the moderator of a women’s group, you will come across multiple instances that require creative and critical thinking. For instance, a member might have a problem that she hopes the group will help her solve, or the group might wish to discuss and analyze a book or movie. Regardless of the reason behind the need, there are a few techniques that can help in stimulating creative thinking.

Brainstorming is one of the best ways to stimulate creative thinking and it’s fun. Brainstorming is really a method of generating ideas, while judgment is put on hold.

Practically speaking, when you start to brainstorm, one person must be designated to take notes. Members can volunteer for this position, or they may be assigned the note-taker position on a revolving basis. It helps to have a stand up easel or pad and colorful magic markers so that the note-taker can write everything down for all to see.
In order to brainstorm, a playful environment must be created to stimulate the creative ideas. Even if the topic at hand is something very serious, refrain from getting bogged down or trying to be very somber. Playfulness stimulates creativity, so create the right environment – have some snacks on hand and make sure the seating is comfortable.

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Compromise vs. Negotiate

Use the word “negotiate” with women and you will see a lot of discomfort surface up.  Women haven’t yet learned the art of negotiation.  The opposite holds true more often with “compromise” as women are subtly encouraged to compromise rather than negotiate.  There is a big difference between the two.

If you review the definitions of compromise and negotiate, you can perceive similarities between the two, yet they are different in their application.

Compromise – to adjust or settle by mutual concessions; to come to agreement by mutual concession; to find or follow a way between extremes.

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Personality Types in a Women’s Group

One’s personality is made of different traits and behaviors that when combined make each of us unique.  It’s our own fingerprint – how people know us, how they experience our presence in this world.

All groups benefit from having different types of personalities participating. This helps to create a strong group.  For example if you only have quiet people, your group will never get off the ground.  In contrast, if everyone’s a talker, there can be pandemonium! Talkers and quiet personalities need to find a balance.  The talker needs to be aware of others in the group and the quiet ones may need to take a risk, step up, and participate.

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Do You Want To Share Your Group With Others?

So many of you out there have written to us about groups you’ve started or are participating in. It’s exciting! So … 

We decided to create a page on our Women’s Group Busy Bites blog to gather information on active women’s groups.  Our community of women on WGBB comes from many parts of the world. 

If you would like to share something about your group with the other women in the community, please send your info to * 

Your Name:  First name is fine

Group Name:  If you have one, share it

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Women’s Group Topic: Gossiping

Over the years our women’s group has discussed many exciting topics, yet at the last meeting the topic of “gossiping” initiated interesting and energized responses.  We even got out an old-fashioned, giant-sized dictionary to locate the definition of gossip.

To jumpstart our discussion, we were provided with an article entitled “7 Tips for Giving up Gossip” by Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron, “The Truth About Gossip”. definition
gossip: 1. idle talk or rumor, esp. about the personal or private affairs of others: the endless gossip about Hollywood stars. 2. light, familiar talk or writing. 3. a person given to tattling or idle talk.

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Start A Women’s Group? Me?

Do I really want to start a women’s group? This may be a question you’re struggling with. Why not just join a pre-existing group? Why not find something tried and true already out there? The answers to all of these questions truly depend on what you’re looking to accomplish by being involved in such a group.

Chances are that if you’re seeking to be a part of a women’s group, you feel there’s something missing from your life. It could simply be female camaraderie. It might be that you have a particular interest but need an avenue in which to fulfill it.

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We Are Back!

It’s been awhile since we posted to Busy Bites.  We’ve been busy and lost track of time as it flew right by.

Karen has been busy with a cross-country move, settling into her new home, her daughter’s wedding on the West Coast and a wedding brunch on the East Coast, as well as serving her bread and butter clients.  The East Coast wedding brunch was somewhat diminished by a major snow storm, but we still had plenty of people there to celebrate this wonderful occasion.

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What Does It Mean To Be A Woman?

Is there any one definition that best describes what it means to be a woman?   I know we share many physical similarities, yet even there we also differ…some bigger, some smaller.

Here are definitions on and Merriam-Webster isn’t that different.   Does this describe who you are as a woman?

1. the female human being (distinguished from MAN)
2. an adult female person
3. a female attendant to a lady of rank
4. a wife
5. the nature, characteristics, or feelings often attributed to women; womanliness.
6. a sweetheart to paramour; mistress
7. a female employee or representative
8. a female person who cleans house, cook, etc.; housekeeper
9. women collectively:  Woman is no longer subordinate to man

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