Do you ever ask yourself “Is it ok to be selfish?”  Do you feel you have a right to make choices that are just for you?  Is there ever a time in your life when being selfish is exactly what you need to do?  Or do you feel allergic to the word…break out in hives just thinking about it?

The word “selfish” creates conflicting emotions for women.  On one side, it feels good to just think of yourself and not have to always be “on” for other people.  Then there is the other side, the one that society has laid down regarding a women’s role – the side that says being selfish is not what we would ever want others to think about us.  It’s just not feminine.  Read more...

You may be considering joining a women’s group but are a bit hesitant. Joining any type of group takes a commitment. You must commit your time and energy to such a group. It also requires a mental, emotional commitment on your part. Therefore, you may be asking yourself, is it worth it? What will this group provide to me if I become a member?

Joining a women’s group can offer so much more than you ever thought possible.

You may be thinking of joining a group to expand your circle of friends or possibly to do some networking.  Read more...

A fortunate thing about a women’s group is that there is always someone to spill your guts to, listen wholeheartedly, tell it like it is, and to carry you through to the next stage of your life. At some point, the group becomes your second family and telling the members your deepest darkest secrets and intimacies comes naturally.

It has been said that humor is one of the best cures for what ails you. If that’s the case, a women’s group can accommodate that need as well. If prayer and meditation is something that guides you, a group can lift you up and be there to listen—the key word being listen.  Read more...

Women come in and out of our lives on a daily basis…some are a constant and others gently bump into us and then quickly move on.   What do we do with those connections?   Do we ignore or treasure them?

We believe that as individuals women are powerful in their own right.  Anytime you bring two or more women together, the strength multiplies significantly and the impact can be unexpected.  Even brief moments can spark an idea, warm our hearts with memories and make a difference in how we feel about ourselves. 

Here are some examples of wonderful women experiences:  Read more...

Spring is a perfect time to plant seeds…

Whenever you gather women together, it’s a way to honor female relationships. The group’s energy is powerful and developing this energy with a solid vision can build stronger lives for everyone. A group can accomplish more together than individuals can do on their own. The world has more possibilities when we join together as a group to nurture ourselves and others.

In its early stages of a group, you may not be aware of all the tiny seeds of interaction that are being planted to help form the group. Over time, these seeds of connection, watered with commitment and respect, blossom into strong and nurturing relationships within the group.  Read more...

Trust – Firm reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, or character of a person or thing.

In a successful women’s group, the members must all trust each other enough to be able to open up and share their experiences freely. As we know, without sharing there will not be growth. But how can women in a diverse group learn to trust each other? How long before they can open up honestly?

The secret to building a trusting relationship is to start small. Begin with small acts and gestures of trust and build it up from there. It will take awhile, but there will come a time when the members of your group will not hesitate to open up to one another.  Read more...

Use the word “negotiate” with women and you will see a lot of discomfort surface up.  Women haven’t yet learned the art of negotiation.  The opposite holds true more often with “compromise” as women are subtly encouraged to compromise rather than negotiate.  There is a big difference between the two.

If you review the definitions of compromise and negotiate, you can perceive similarities between the two, yet they are different in their application.

Compromise – to adjust or settle by mutual concessions; to come to agreement by mutual concession; to find or follow a way between extremes.  Read more...

Over the years our women’s group has discussed many exciting topics, yet at the last meeting the topic of “gossiping” initiated interesting and energized responses.  We even got out an old-fashioned, giant-sized dictionary to locate the definition of gossip.

To jumpstart our discussion, we were provided with an article entitled “7 Tips for Giving up Gossip” by Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron, “The Truth About Gossip”.

Dictionary.com definition
gossip: 1. idle talk or rumor, esp. about the personal or private affairs of others: the endless gossip about Hollywood stars. 2. light, familiar talk or writing. 3. a person given to tattling or idle talk.  Read more...

Today in the U.S. it’s a special day to honor all of the “Mothers.”  If you are celebrating Mother’s Day today, share your love generously.

I researched when other countries celebrate “Mother’s Day” and saw that many celebrate today, but almost all countries have a date to honor the role of the importance of a Mother.

We wrote this post last year, and it’s time to remember the three most important roles in mothering: mothering ourselves, honoring our mothers and an awareness of the importance of our roles as mothers.

Mother’s Day Resolutions: A New Tradition  Read more...

Lately I’ve been thinking about how we are all someone’s daughters and it is likely that some members of this women’s community have lost their mothers.  Are you one of them?  Do you still feel the gap in your heart from missing this special person? Do you face special occasions where her presence is sorely missing? No matter how many years may have passed, one’s mother is always a part of who we are now. 
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