Start A Women’s Group? Me?

Do I really want to start a women’s group? This may be a question you’re struggling with. Why not just join a pre-existing group? Why not find something tried and true already out there? The answers to all of these questions truly depend on what you’re looking to accomplish by being involved in such a group.

Chances are that if you’re seeking to be a part of a women’s group, you feel there’s something missing from your life. It could simply be female camaraderie. It might be that you have a particular interest but need an avenue in which to fulfill it.

What are you looking for?  You could be looking to network or just want to expand your group of friends. You may have moved to a new neighborhood and are trying to meet some new people. You may just want to add a new dimension to your hum-drum existence. Whatever the reason, being involved in a women’s group is a fabulous way to enhance your life.

The problem with simply seeking out a pre-existing women’s group is that it may not fit exactly into the mold you’re searching for. It has its own set of rules and procedures; it’s already underway, possibly for a long time, and may be somewhat stale or lifeless. If you start your own group, you can make it whatever you want it to be. That should get your creative juices going. There’s much to think about.

Of course, you want it to have characteristics that will attract other women, otherwise your group will be quite small or will not be able to retain its members. Nevertheless, when you are the one starting the group, you get to be The Visionary. You get to drive the group in the direction you want it to go. You get to determine when the group will meet, where and what each meeting will be about. You get to mold the group any way you want, at least at the beginning. As the group matures, you’ll be more comfortable getting input from other members on such things, but at the beginning most people prefer to simply show up when and where told rather than make the decisions themselves.

Create a Vision:  So once you’ve decided to start a group that will help to fulfill that void you’ve been feeling, the first step is to develop a specific vision for your group. Try to keep it relatively simple at first and don’t seek to accomplish too much with this initial group. You can always add ideas and activities later once it gets off the ground.

Set Up a Time:  Check your schedule and come up with a few days and times (once a week or once a month) that you will have the group meet initially. Once you get together a few times, your starter group can brainstorm on what schedule works best for all. Setting up a day and time that only works well for some members will simply defeat the group from the get go. Remember, you’re The Visionary, but establishing a successful group requires the cooperation off all involved.

What’s the theme of the group?:  Next, think about what you want to accomplish during each meeting. Is this women’s group specialized in any way? Will this be a knitting club, a book club, a wine club, a group of new mothers, thrity- or forty-somethings, a problem solving group? Depending on the type of group you’re putting together, you will need to arrange specific times of day and possibly locations that accommodate the needs of the group.

Being The Visionary, the one to start a women’s group, will provide a multitude of benefits to you, in addition to those that join you. You’ll be adding something to your life that is the exact thing you may feel you’ve been missing.

You’ll feel an amazing sense of accomplishment at having done this yourself. It will do wonders for your self-esteem and confidence. It will also prove to you that you’re capable of going outside of your comfort zone and doing something creative like you never thought you could accomplish. This, in turn, may end up leading to you taking on other daunting challenges in your life with gusto and excitement. By starting this group, you’re on your way!

4 Responses to “Start A Women’s Group? Me?”

  • Margaret Says:

    Do I need to name the group? what should my invitation say? should I e-mail or should I send an invitation through the mail?

  • Pat Says:

    Hi Margaret

    I would wait until the group has formed and all the members can brainstorm regarding a good name for the group. I find the more you engage members of the group in the structure, the more they participate and commit to the group.

    I would send an email introducing the formation of the group informing the potential members what your vision is for the group. Get them excited about what you want to accomplish.

    In the email let them know the date/time you will meet and if you want them to bring other friends to the first meeting, let you know. If you don’t want to just invite others, then, of course, don’t offer that possibility.

    Obviously, you want them to RSVP one way or the other so you know how many will be attending.

    I would start the process one month ahead of time given everyone’s schedules. Then you will need to send out small teaser emails to keep them interested and also reminding them of the upcoming meeting.

    Don’t get discouraged if people don’t respond immediately…it’s a process and allow yourself room to make this a successful venture.

    I hope this was helpful and if you have additional questions, don’t hesitate to ask.


  • mary Says:

    as a group what a things that are expected to be do in a group.

  • Pat Says:


    What happens in a group depends on the vision/focus of the people coming together.

    Groups can focus on numerous topics: entertainment, finance, self-growth, volunteering, etc.

    It’s about joining together to enhance our lives and the lives of others.


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